When a woman is pregnant, her sexual appetite fluctuates with the changes she experiences during pregnancy. There will be days she craves sex and others she will not want anything to do with it. Both the expectant mother and her partner may find this confusing. Once the child has arrived, there are more changes in store for the couple that can influence the sexual relationship. These can include:

Healing from a vaginal birth

Healing from a c-section

Breast-feeding and the inevitable leaking associated

Vaginal dryness

Post-partum depression

Sleep deprivation

There is a lot of information available for expectant parents and their sex life before and after childbirth. It is difficult to find topics relating to sex during your pregnancy. New parents often do not know what is safe and what is not or whether they can have sex the entire nine months or only during certain times. This article will look at some of these questions and help you understand more of what you can expect during your pregnancy.

Before sex even begins, communication should come first. The woman should let her partner know how she is feeling and what she is afraid of when they have sex. You might consider both of you going in and speaking with her doctor about what is appropriate for her body during the pregnancy. These ways both of you have an opportunity to explore your questions and/or concerns. As with your sex life before she became pregnant, talking is still very important to maintain a healthy sexual experience.

If you have been told there are no expected complications for you, then sex is considered safe during the entire nine months. A high-risk pregnancy would be if you were susceptible to miscarriages or pre-term labor. Although the doctor may have given you, the all clear for the next nine months does not guarantee that you will want to engage in sex.

Many expectant mothers suffer from “morning sickness” and sex is not something they are interested in during this time. Do not let this upset the rest of your day though. If you use to enjoy morning sex, you can begin enjoying afternoon sex instead. There is no reason for it to stop simply because your body says no during this stage. During the later stages of pregnancy when the woman begins to grow it will be time to find new positions. Communication is important during this time so that you both can be satisfied and enjoy the love you share together.

Many couples fear that if they thrust too hard they will harm the baby. This is not true. Your baby is completely protected within the uterus and the amniotic sac surrounding it. If that were not enough, a very thick mucus plug is closing the cervix so semen cannot travel past the vaginal canal. Do not think that for one minute you cannot have an orgasm. They are perfectly safe and help to exercise the uterine muscles, which will be used a great deal during labor. Many couples use sex as a way to encourage labor as the date approaches.

The sex drive will fluctuate with the different stages of the pregnancy. Normally after the first trimester the queasiness subsides and your body begins more accustom the changes it is experiencing. It is best to take advantage of the times you do feel like having a sexual encounter as your moods and physical feelings fluctuate constantly. During the second trimester, many women find this a pleasant time and enjoy sex a great deal. Later, the sex drive usually declines again in the third trimester as her abdomen enlarges and the baby begins pushing on her organs and bladder. This can be downright confusing to the male who is use to a lot of sex during the process of trying to conceive and then going to almost none for a few months. Then he is overjoyed to have sex only to have it diminish again. Communicating and knowledge of what is happening to her and her body is very important during this time.

There are other concerns that couples may have that can decrease their appetite for sexual pleasure. They may start to feel anxious about being a parent or the financial burden they are now going to be experiencing. They may be concerned about their spouse’s health and whether or not, the baby will be healthy. These are concerns that you should definitely talk over with your health care provider and each other. Remember, passionate sex actually relieves tension and stress. So enjoy yourself intimately and then reassess your concerns. They may not seem so overwhelming after you and your partner have had a couple of orgasms.

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